Many women today want to feel stress-free, relaxed, calm, and present in our daily lives. These desires are real! I feel them and so do many other women I know.
But lots of women believe that we can’t feel that way when we lead such busy and overwhelming lives.
We were taught that staying busy was better than NOT being busy. Remember that old saying: “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.” ?
For so many of us, a full day of running around and bouncing from one appointment or commitment to another is “normal”. Kids sports, school functions, homework, laundry, cooking dinner, the list is endless, so we believe that there is “never enough time in the day”.
But the truth is, there IS enough time in the day. We have simply trained our minds to accept this brutal schedule as “normal”.
Is it not “normal” for us to take breaks or to spend time on something we enjoy doing for ourselves?
So how do we stop allowing our lives to control us and begin taking back our power by controlling our lives again?
We first start by understanding where our time is spent.
Have you ever sat back to think about how much time and energy you spend on doing things for others? Have you ever written it down?
Here’s how you can begin to regain control of your life.
Write down everything you do in a week and how much time you spend doing each task.
- Getting ready in the morning: 20 minutes
- Getting the kids ready: 30 minutes
- Cooking breakfast: 15 minutes
- And on and on.
At the end of the week, add up the time you spent doing each task each day. You may find it appropriate to group them as needed (kids sports, cooking, etc.)
After you’re done, take a look at how much time you spent doing the things you WANT to do and how much of your time was spent doing other things.
This one simple exercise does two things for you. 1) It plainly shows you WHY you’ve been feeling this sense of overwhelm. 2) It forced you to find small snippets of time to write everything down.
You can now trade those small snippets of time for something better.
This is just the first small action you’ve taken to take back control of your life and your schedule.
There’s more to come soon. Stay tuned.